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WHO is your favorite Indian actress of the current time??

who is your favorite Indian actress of the current time?? 

For me,the first 2 positions are sealed for one and only DEEPIKA PADUKONE...she is simply a breath-taking beauty - one whose a simple smile that will do the thing as you can see in the following simple pic! :o)

And the 3rd position is for PARINEETI CHOPRA...

That Moment...

A moment that can change your life...
something that you have never experienced before!

A moment full of excitement & pure pleasure..
that when ... we have re-discovered each other!

The moment when I have realised..
she is mine.

That moment will remain very special
forever in my heart..
even when we choose to be
 drifted apart!!

SG

A Funny Reality...

Friends,check out this cartoon..hope you will like it!!Couldn't controlled myself from posting it here!! :)

Soul Mate....

For a man,
it's blessing to have a friend,
with whom he can share
some time & thoughts,
some fun and...what not!

At least,
it's better than keep carrying
a bitter and lonely life.


Still,
the best thing happens when
he finds his soul-mate,
and the best friend...
in his wife! 

SG

Ogling - Beyond The Roving Eyes

Ogling! this one word is enough to create a controversy...such a powerful word! *sigh*
Even 10-15 years ago ogling was treated as ONLY MAN-thing..... but ,after all we are now live in 21st century and things seems to be changed quickly.Recent Kinsey report (USA) revealed that ,women also do ogle,in fact MORE than men!! Ohh my god ,our fairer sex now ready to give us challenge in every aspects...even at the department that ,even a decade ago,was considered for Men ONLY!! ;-)
Jokes apart, actually this is NOT A BIG DEAL at all,this report,however don't surprise me at all.

Come on! women do get attracted towards opposite sex & that's pretty natural....
But, I'm not totally agree with this report, firstly 'cos these are based on reaction of WESTERN women n that's too in the cities like NY etc.But yes ,no doubt women,specially gals & younger ladies continuously ogle...sometimes shamelessly,like men do.

Still, is there no difference between a female-ogling with their male counter-part?
Answer is YES! besides normal attraction , i.e. while they stare at handsome,tall guys,they also prefer those guys who don't ogle frequently,may be just stare-back with a smile and VERY IMPORTANTLY can look at their eyes,directly.

I feel, gals hate those guys,irrespective of handsome or not,those can't look at their eyes, rather stare at their assets!That's a complete turn-off for them.
And, there lies the BASIC DIFFERENCE between the male-ogling with female one. Men's ogling is more a lustful act(and sometimes they moved all most in a trance and forget where they are :o) ).But more disgustingly,some men even don't bother about quality.... they just ogle first and then try to figure-out at whom they do it! :-/
On the contrary, women are more choosy in this matter.First they select a few from a group-of-guys and then start their smart-game.In short,between the two genders,women are more coy fish in this act.Sometimes,they get more wild(than one can think of) and even do it in the very presence of their boy-friends(saying from my personal experiences & no,I was NOT the poor boy-friend! haha!!).

Now some facts....
This is not a joke. It came from the New England Journal of Medicine:
Great news for girl watchers: Ogling over women's boobs is good for a man's health and can add years to his life, medical experts have discovered. According to the New England Journal of Medicine, "Just 10 minutes of staring at the charms of a well-endowed female is roughly equivalent to a 30-minute aerobics work-out" declared gerontologist Dr. Karen Weatherby.
Weird research,huh!

But, must have to admit that, when women ogle, guys do get a high..... and more importantly a big relief from their own staring-duty! ;-)

Wow! Quite An Interview it was!!

Yes,it's true. Recently I had the pleasure to be interviewed by one of my blog-friend and very sweet-n-little girl Cuckoo.It was a really friendly environment and lasted little longer than i thought.Here it's..........

Cuckoo - Good morning Mr Sag_Nik. Before we start, let me put a few things a little straight to you. As you know I would be taking your interview, you have to remain seated calmly without questioning my questions or no. of questions. There are going to be five main questions with parts a, b, c etc. I want detailed answers to all of them. And please keep your face a little more cheerful. It looks like you have come here for a mourning. Yeah, that's a little better now. Keep smiling like that. Stop scratching your head. Here we go..

1. First of all, congratulations for getting the job of a lecturer in Calcutta University. May God bless your students. Why according to you, this job is more glamorous than being a school teacher ? Isn't it a shame on teaching profession if you think so ? You said your first love is writing, then why do you think writing is not a better career option compared to teaching ? Can we then assume that all the people who write, are fools even if they earn millions ? Can we see some samples of your writing ?

Me:Hi Cuckoo,before going to your question i want to clarify that 'Sag_Nik' is NOT right pronunciation of my name!I use that only for my blogger-id, my friend.So next time please take care.Ohh no, you needn't be apologize,it's ok.Now,without wasting any more time,i'm going straight to the point ..... yeah,College/University teaching is MUCH MORE glamorous than School & am saying it 'cos NOT ONLY the high remuneration attached with it but it's LEVEL actually!.... after completing M.Sc./Ph.D. if somebody has to back to his basics only & being forced to restrict there forever....then it's a pain Miss Cuckoo....again, even if a hefty amount would be offer to the School-teachers, those who truly want to utilise his/her knowledge and depth in his/her respective subjects, definitely College/University is best thing for them & am quite sure that ALL THOSE in this field will agree with me !
So ,you see it's NOT shame of the teaching profession if i say 'so' ,rather it's a SHAME of our system where being a very promising and highly educated fella, lots of school-teachers have to spend their life in a very dull manner where they get NO scope to flaunt their real quality and true potential....you see it's really shame of our system!

Now,coming to my writing.... you really misunderstood my words,dear Cuckoo! I never said that teaching is BETTER career-option than writing ....but i wanna mean that former offers more security than the later one . No, those who earn million bucks by penning his/her thought aren't fool at all, rather the HAPPIEST human beings on earth for being in a position where he/she is the master ,all-in-one who never has to compromise with the thing he/she's extremely passionate ! how dare u to say such thing my friend!
Ok, no hard feelings .....it can happen with all,so relax.
But then why i said that writing isn't a perfect career option? obviously it has some reason that am now going to tell you.....you know,being a writer what felt bucks aren't the real motivating or inspiring thing when it's comes to penning those words reflects your feelings on various aspects of life,be it deepest emotions,beauty,greed, cruelty,imagination and many more ......rather you want APPRECIATIONS from the readers & it's needn't be the praise only, it may be the criticism ,but should be a meaningful one .... and here's the original problem lies .....during his initial days, most writers (specially those don have anybody to back 'em) have to face ignorance/insult to their creations that means 'ALL' to 'em....when some 'publisher' who may be haven't write a single word in his entire life ,throw your pandulipi like a dirty thing or simply ignore you many times ....then,there are peoples who express their doubt in your ability,laugh at you simply 'cos you dreamt to be a 'writer'! It's a harsh world out there Miss Cuckoo......yes, if somebody can cross this barrier then he/she definitely can enter the path that may lead him/her to those 'millions bucks' you mentioned .Sorry for being so serious,but it's a very sensitive issue for me.
So what can one person do, specially when he want to be confident enough to deal those rough situations ?? Obviously searching for a fund that will keep supply him the 'oxygen', that very much need to live in a urban society ,namely 'money'.
Hey my dear friend,ALL this lengthy reply is due to tell you that am taking teaching or any other job that suits my standard is only mean to gimme a required fund that help me to keep my passion - my writing intact,even if i don make 'million bucks' as you said!Again, i don meant that i dislike 'teaching'....only thing is i can live my life happily without it BUT NOT without my writing,'cos it's my life ! And you may be aware that there are so many great writers having decent jobs in other fields that only help 'em to concentrate on their writing ......It's different thing that they make huge bucks solely by penning their own thoughts!
It's like an unknown chemistry experiment that needs lottsa funds so that those scientists can carry it on without any halt....'cos like writing ,experiments shouldn't have NO time-limit or dead-lines ..... it's completely an uncertain world where chance of failure is much more than success ....so,for that one has to arrange a fund n same thing am doing now!
Because,even if it'll not going to pay me.....writing will be there until i lost the urge to live a confident life. Hope you understand this time ....
Well, I'm a Bengali writer ,so before giving any sample of my writing here, please tell me do ya understand Bengali ??
2.Hmmm… that was quite a nasty reply, you got to be better now with this one. I can see your main blog is fairly new.. just two months old. And in your own words you 'opened it just for the heck of it'. Why are you wasting my time then ? How do you plan to pursue blogging in future ? Please elaborate. Do you think it is a timepass game ?
Me:You yet to clarify my last question!Sorry if my reply was harsh.Lets try to be friendly this time.Yeah, though i opened my blogger account without any long-term motto,but as you know, there are lots of things those may be at first place don appeal you that much, but with time a liking,a desire growing within you. About blogging that's what happened with me .While i don comment in all blogs,definitely visit more or less regularly,specially there are some blogs in which i visit quite frequently.Those bloggers are my net-buddies.So,you see blogging obviously more than a 'timepass game' for me.
Again,no body wasting any one's time.It's a personal choice which decides someone's fate.You were very much allowed NOT to interview me! So be cool!
3.No, you don't have to show me your sweaty red face, I can understand it is a tad hot there sitting on top of boiling pot but it is all for your benefit Mr.SagNik. Oh, you would have preferred to sit on that ice slab ? Ok, as soon as you finish answering this question my boys will shift you in that ice room.Now listen to the third question. It looks like you are a BIG fan of Indrajal comics as your profile picture also says that. Apart from what you are doing now to popularize the comics, what would be the other ways you would adapt to ?
Me:Ask your boys to relax Cuckoo! I know how to turn a 'boiling pot' in a 'ice slab'....I think you will understand what i mean if you can remember my profile picture .Now coming to my comic-reading,not only Indrajals but there are lot of other characters those i love very much as well,such as Tin tin,Lucky Luke ,Asterix etc. I don want to adapt any other way to popularize this comic-culture which's definitely eaten by cartoon network,MTV etc....only want to keep my fascination towards these fun-thing intact! Saying so, sometimes i do tell some friends about the on-line comic-culture ,but that's all!

4. Are you feeling better now after sitting on that ice slab ? No, no we can not move you from there. My pet tiger is very hungry if you really want to know.Ok, sit quietly now. We are at the fourth question. Not bad. I have seen you many times commenting on other people's blogs about the most beautiful feeling 'Love'.You are 26 years old, have you ever been in love, when was it, are you still together ? If not, why not ?

Me:Well Cuckoo,if you have notice,all my comments were mostly general views.Also i tried to post in my blog depicting my personal experience,but alas! that became rather an ordinary n general concept.....missing all my TRUE feelings .It simply 'cos,as i realised later, those are too personal things to share!
Yes, i was in love .It was over few years ago but still feel pain whenever I think about her. She was my very close friend .....we shared a very good rapport .But, honestly i don know why this relation is over .Because i don remember any negative vibes between us .....It happened when she suddenly started to ignoring me,after a couple of years of very open relation.Being shocked,I never asked her why she behaved in that way 'cos if she was happy being without me....it should be had some valid reason and i don want to force her ... i can say honestly ,i was a real friend of her who's touchy about his self-respect as well. But yes,i never expressed my feelings to her,though my body language was quite evident,at least i (and some of my class-mates) thought that.
May be she didn't love me at all or as one of my very close friends said,she desired to hear those words from my side .....but i was afraid that time, afraid to lose her friendship,her warmth if the reply would negative.
It's different thing that, at the end i lost both my friendship and love . May be then i behaved like a coward and got what i deserved!But here's one thing for sure, i loved her.

5.Oh, it was quite fast, we have already reached the fifth question. Tell me honestly why you opted to be interviewed?
Me:Simply 'cos i love challenge! Surprised ? but it's true my friend.I love challenge,specially love to face this type of thing. I know that as long as am with my true-self .....can face any odd-personal questions ,any controversial things without an iota of hesitation or fear .And this is simply 'cos am very much ok if someone don like my replies/views as .......it's fixed that I'm NOT here to please or agree with everybody.It's even ok if somebody don like me personally.....but will stick at my point till i feel it's justified.
I had lots of more intense,personal and controversial debates and i never afraid to disagree or establish my point-of-view,regardless how much it's different from others .So your offer of a rather friendly interview was nothing to me,only thing i bother was those rules stated that i've to interview others etc as i don have that much time.
Think you get your answer.

Now friends,if you wanna interviewed by her,simply express your desire in her blog.I assure that she'll NOT disappoint you as she loves to take interviews ;-))

At Last!

Wow! what a day I had today!! It's certainly one-of-those special days in my life.. :))

Today I have received my first appointment letter(after some period of sheer uncertainty) as a lecturer under the University of Calcutta. Though I should admit that,till last year,my original goal was to persuade my career in my writing skill rather teaching [writing ,specially about those things I have witnessed,realised, enjoyed (& sometimes hated the most) in my urban-life,is really close to my heart .....it's among those few activities that i can't quit under any condition...though now days it's really hard to find time/make-my-mind for penning something new...may be things will change from now onwards,for better,hopefully!].

However, off late I have realised that,writing solely can't be a real career option, rather I should treat it as an extra-curricular activity (i know it sounds little weird but can't help at the present).So,I made my mind for teaching (specially after having a couple of real moral-boosting conversations with one of my seniors in this field).

Of course I was (& still am) very much reluctant to become a mere school-teacher, after have spent so many years in the Jadavpur University. However,for me, teaching under a reputed University is much more prestigious thing and so didn't hesitate to accept this offer!

By the way,I have to join that college on the 1st September and class will commence from 5th,on the Teacher's day!!

Lets hope for the best!:)

Passion: Isko Bina Yeah Zindegi Adhuri Hai....

Firstly,what is passion? is it the desire we feel for those things we love,be it close relationships or activities we love to do most or selected books we read again n again, in short everything that we desire most...is it the passion or a mere addiction?
How can one define the thin line between passion n addiction?.. not a easy thing,my friend!
In general way, after some point of time we lost the attraction towards the things we addicted ,BUT even though we are no more presently attached or involved things make us passionate , cann't forget it so easily & more over if it's TRUE passion , then will not regret about it an iota,whether it holds a significant meaning or not in our life anymore.

As the title suggests,it is the PASSION that make our LIFE special & meaningful,it gives life a reason to smile in adversity,it's like oxygen ,a fresh air in our life,it simply teach us how to make a life WORTH LIVING otherwise which's may be nothing but a dull n monotonous time spending on this planet: Earth!

LIFE itself is the BIGGEST passion ,so....
Let's celebrate our life.... yeah!

Still confused, friends? Then there's a EASIER thing below 4 all of you .. just check your digital passion quotient!

For me ,it is...

You Are 60% Passionate, 40% Compassionate

You possess an ideal balance of passion and compassion. You definitely can get swept away and lose your head a little. But you're rarely a fool for love!

Is Your Love Style Passionate or Compassionate?

Love really...

Here i'm with most the controversial topic - LOVE vs INFATUATION/CASUAL-ENCOUNTERS.

It's just impossible to describe each in few words ,hence the difference, that's i think a very thin line exists between these,is tougher to describe.

But, then lets try to describe it from my experience (it's my blog, so my point of view is matters most!)

LOVE for me is something that you don't look as a Object-to-win, a-feelings-can't-share-with-everybody.... in short,a very personal thing where either way there's a chance of loss, but still you give your all effort & that without any/little expectation.

I had experience LOVE in my life.....one thing, that i never believed much before (& obviously was proud about it!) .... then i gave importance ONLY to those casual 'n' weird encounters with several persons of opposite sex!
It's just that i never told HER.. honestly never feel the guts & being around with several beautiful persons no body really suspect it (ok, some body did, but i was smart enough to deny that & to prove my point i just increase my interaction with other new-bees in our university ...and it worked!)

Now, i've no regret about my feeling nor i still in love with the same person... only it taught me one thing: YOU CAN FEEL GREAT not only after getting something, but EVEN AFTER GIVING UNCONDITIONALLY, one lesson that change my point of view towards life...to certain extent ,obviously.

Now, still i feel attract towards hot strangers/little known gals (hey,end of the day, i'm a MAN dude!), but not really feel excited in casual encounters as before.I want now something meaningful,that can touch your soul...& not only body.

May be my patience bring me something this kind one day!!


I'm an optimistic person (at least still now!)
I believe,One day i will meet my LOVE ... yes, LOVE and not infatuation or lust...
For that i can wait my life-time.

Only wish if i've some 'TIME-MACHINE' kinda thing,so that would tell me how long i've to wait!!!!

huh!! again your crazy expectations SG???.... stop it ,stop it ya#!~^_(*&%##^
But, still i'm not complaining!! ... *sigh*

It's raining!

Wow! after a longggg wait, ultimately rain is set-in at Kolkata. Now, as i write this post, safely situated in my room & no planning of going elsewhere, i just enjoying it!

It's raining cats n dogs ,with heavy wind.
Only pray, plz continue it rain-god/goddess or whoever responsible for it!
Lets have a hot tea & pakoda (only if mom agree).

Past Calling Me

Friends, this is going to be my first personal post through my blog,though i created my account 2 months ago. I did that for a heck,at least i thought, so i had no planning to post something personal.
But, just from few days i feel to express the thoughts going around my minds,some random & others.... well , for that here i am.

I studied for more than 5 years in my university & left just one year ago. But, still i fell attached to my classes,friends, specially those class rooms..... wait, if u think i was a very good student or very much love in my study,then nope, & neither i cherished my time when i was a student,mostly because of hectic & monotonous schedules & the distance from my home.......... i have to travel as much as 4 hours up-down journey,regularly.
My most friends were in mess/hostel. I never got a hostel due a good number of students came from much far distances [some from different states also] than me & were more deserving candidates.
For mess, well i tried, but felt that,we did all those things suppose to be a family-man duty,as going to the grocery,markets ,track the regular expenses ,cleaning ur linen blah blah.......... sometimes we, the three friends share the mess, joked that we became so much expert in house-hold jobs that we should get married & stay with our spouses here as studies somehow became a secondary things to us! But, seriously, i felt more exhausted than my day-to-day journey & leave that mess after 4 months or so.
But, these actually not the things now haunt my memory. But, as i said, my classes,friends ,in short that 'busy life' i never felt will back in my memory .Now, i visit my University for project works,sometimes meet the friends who r already get a project,but i rarely able to visit my class rooms ,partly because new birds filled the place & most importantly this will not bring back me that group of friends i hanged around once.
I fell really nostalgic, may be not a good sign as we have to live in our present, but then, can't help.
Ok, enough blabber for one day ,but NOT finished yet..so, may be i will back with the same topics in my next post. Till then, bye friends .